I have something serious that I need to address. I have recently been accused of being hateful and bashing people in the South, so I would like to take a moment to clear up any misunderstandings that may exist.
Just to be clear about my stance on the South… I can’t stand being stuck in the Bible belt. It breaks my heart to be constantly fearing for the safety of myself and my beloved, and having to hide who we are because we are queer and he is transgender. It makes me sick to my stomach how the general populace, in my experience, looks down on the poor. In my experience, what is called Southern hospitality has been people being fake-nice to my face while not showing any real compassion for other people. This includes the people in charge of whether my spouse and I received assistance when we were so poor we could barely pay rent, had no food stamps and were trying to get food from the Salvation Army. I cannot stand people — any people — treating one another badly. At NO point have I ever said that I hate everyone or everything in the South. It makes me incredibly sad that people would take my words and twist them like that, in order to claim that I am judgmental or hateful.
I honestly can’t even fathom why anyone would take me expressing my frustration with the area and my personal experiences as personal indictments of them as human beings. I am intelligent enough and mature enough to separate my general feelings about a region from my opinions of individual people. Standing up for myself and being open about my experiences when my spouse and I have been mistreated as queer/gender-variant/non-Christian people in the South is neither unloving nor unreasonably critical.
As I have said many times, this community (which primarily centers around my Facebook page, but extends to anywhere I hang my hat on the web) is a place of love and respect for ALL people. To put an even finer point on it, I respect ALL people unless an individual gives me a good reason to lose respect for them. I am generally very nice and friendly, but I do not shy away from speaking of injustice when I see it. I am a Scorpio. I am queer. I am a disabled witch and a feisty part-Irish woman who is devoted to Brighid, a goddess who is in many ways all about fairness and doing what is right, regardless of whether what is right is popular. This is who I am, and I will not be sad to say goodbye to you if you have a problem with who I am.
I wish you all love, health, joy and the brightest of blessings.